The three of us sat around my office cubicle hunched over my phone, like little school girls, cooing over the attractive guy on the screen. “Just try it, Mannie,” one of my work friends encouraged. I looked at the 27 year old second-year resident from a downtown LA hospital on my screen and wondered, perhaps like everyone who first starts online dating, if he was a serial killer.
I was hesitant, skeptical and guarded when it came to online dating three years ago. The common mistrust of meeting someone online combined with the stigma of “settling” for an online platform to find love repelled me from trying it. One day, however, on a slow work day in sunny Southern California, two of my closest work friends brought it up and we took the plunge together. Over the next few months, we looked at matches, went on dates and shared stories, in between patient calls and over lunch breaks. We laughed. We cringed. We gushed over cute gestures. It was an experience.
Our dating experiences ended up being very diverse. Out of the three of us, one of my friends ended up marrying the first person she went on a date with. The other friend found her boyfriend (and soon to be husband, I’m sure) after some casual dating. I ended up deleting the app after using it sporadically while traveling for work. Although it’s difficult to establish “rules” about online dating, there are three truths I’ve found about online dating.